Jennifer Meagher RN is the owner of Senior Life LLC, Advocates and Consultants. Meagher founded and oversees the Better Business Partners Serving Seniors. She is on the Alzheimer’s Advocacy Committee and has specialized in geriatrics since 1998. She is called on by doctors, attorneys, and financial advisors to care for their clients and their families. Contact Jennifer at www.SeniorLifeGCM.com.
I miss my husband at the breakfast table and sitting with me to watch our shows. I miss the silly things he always said. I am writing because I want to thank everyone who helps my husband at the nursing home. It is a relief to both of us to have such caring wonderful people in our lives. My husband is part of the men’s club at the home and he’s the Resident Council Representative. Everyone calls him the mayor of his unit. The nurses welcome me like family. It’s been a big adjustment, but they are taking care of my Frank better than I could at home. My girlfriends thought I was horrid to have “put him in a home.” When they came to visit, they were pleasantly surprised. I want to go on record: a good nursing home is a blessing.
Dear Shirley Jane,
Thank you for writing. I feel the same way. My mother used to say, “You get what you make of things.” It is so helpful to accept and adapt. You and your husband have mastered this beautifully; it isn’t to say it’s easy. It isn’t. Admittedly there are families who have experienced difficulties from minor to major in nursing homes. Thank you for writing to remind us of how beautiful it is when everything comes together.
NURSING HOME OFFERINGS
It is very wise to have an idea which nursing homes you feel are a better match for you / your family than others. In doing so, you might wish to consider what life enrichments are offered.
Here’s a list to investigate or initiate:
SUPPORT GROUPS for residents and/or caregivers
RESIDENT’S COUNCIL which meets with a nursing home resident to outline suggestions for improvement or requests.
PLANTS / GARDEN CLUB
MEN’S GROUP or LADY’S GROUP
(CONSIDER STARTING YOUR OWN GROUP!)
Make the nursing home more of your own home by reserving a space for a family / friends function (get permission to have a cocktail if you’d like) and make arrangements for a favorite pet to come visit (bring certification of rabies vaccination and licensure.)
Bring purpose to your life by acting as a:
GREETER to those entering the building
VOLUNTEER VISITOR to someone who is bedbound or who has had a recent loss
MAIL DELIVERY on your unit
RESIDENTS COUNCIL REPRESENTATIVE.
HAVE AN IDEA? Bring it up. Nursing homes are always looking for new ways to bring joy to your life.
Brain Workout Trivia
Which of these professional football players had the nickname "Refrigerator"?
A. Tony Bocelli
B. Howie Long
C. Bruce Smith
D. William Perry
Brain Workout Trivia is the brainchild of John C Sproul
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The correct answer is D. Perry was a 300+ pound defensive lineman for the Chicago Bears football team, but Coach Mike Ditka also occasionally lined him up in the offensive backfield and used him to carry the ball in short-yardage situations. He scored several touchdowns that way, including one in the 1985 Super Bowl. Perry has stated in an interview that, "Even when I was little, I was big."