Updated: 03/04/2014 7:48 AM
Created: 08/04/2009 11:50 AM WHEC.com
I’m steaming mad. I can’t believe what’s happened. My oldest brother has dementia. He lives in (name withheld) Assisted Living. A man moved in there who keeps wandering into the wrong rooms and gets mad and yells when he’s asked to leave. He went to my brother’s room and yelled at my brother to get out. My brother hit him. The Assisted Living staff sent both men to the hospital. The Assisted Living residence told me they won’t take my brother back, but they are taking back the other man.
How can that be allowed? It just seems absurd. My brother was minding his own business and the other man was loud and threatening. The Assisted Living Staff told me that my brother is too confused for their level of care. One woman went so far as to say he’s too “wacky;” he talks to himself and his singing annoys the other residents. What about the man that enters everyone’s rooms? Right now, my brother doesn’t have a place to live.
Could you make this make sense? What are my brother’s rights?
Thank you dear,
Where to begin here. There’s quite a lot in that brief story. First, it was rude for a professional to have called your brother “wacky.” Next, what caused him to get worse to the point that the Assisted Living Community does not think they can care for him anymore. Talk to the doctors about this. (See today’s article.) If he could improve a bit, perhaps he would be able to return to Assisted Living.
As for why he is not welcome back; you would need to speak to the director at his Assisted Living. If you are interested in him returning, request a meeting. I also recommend that you bring along an advocate. This could be someone in your family, or you could hire a professional from a company like Senior Life LLC. From what you wrote, I am suspecting that your brother requires a higher supervision level than Assisted Living provides.
You will need to address where he goes next. Again, we highly recommend you have your own private assessor help determine his level of care and discuss which services in town are options with consideration given to his financial status. Give our office a call if we can be of assistance.
As for the looming question – why was your brother kicked out, and the other gentleman returned? My guess is that the other gentleman was medicated to improve his behavior and they are giving him another try. Again, this is something you could ask at your meeting.
For whatever reasons, your brother was not a match for his Assisted Living. I urge you to consider a different location for your own piece of mind as you will harbor ill will and worry about his care or when this episode will repeat.
Once you understand the facts, should you still feel there was wrongdoing, contact the Department Of Health and file a complaint.